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1. External Motivators
why do you want to build mental strength is difficult to build and maintain yet many people pursue a stronger mindset without a clear goal in mind why do you want to become stronger do you admire strong people are you searching for confidence courage or self-esteem do you associate strength with professional or social success everyone seeks mental strength for a different reason but some reasons are more powerful than others the people who achieve mental strength carefully reflect on their ambitions.
And discover deeply personal motivators these motivators play a key role in their lifelong success why because your motivators help persevere through difficult situations when you lose hope your motivators remind you that there is something worth fighting for motivation can be a powerful tool yet many people pursue the wrong kinds of motivators they chase external rewards they seek the attention they concentrate on short-term gratification instead of long-term satisfaction to put it simply they focus on the wrong motivators
And their mindset pays the price so if you want to become mentally strong you need to lay a proper foundation think about why you want to be stronger what does strength mean to you what personal goals do you want to accomplish figure out why you want to be stronger otherwise your mental strength isn't going to last
2. Self-Categorization
Are you mentally strong or mentally weak many people categorize themselves as one or the other either you're strong enough to overcome your fears and achieve your goals or you're weak enough to crumble in the face of adversity most people put themselves in one of these categories but here's the truth no one is strong or weak no one fits into one specific category.
And the more often you categorize yourself the more you're damaging your mental strength you may not believe it but everyone has mental strength not everyone has the same amount of mental fortitude but we all have some degree of strength which we use to make decisions create habits and learn new things because everyone has mental strength everyone also has mental weakness we all have sore spots and rough patches we all encounter vulnerable experiences that activate our weaknesses so don't categorize yourself as one or the other no one is consistently strong or consistently weak because nothing in life is black or white everything exists on a spectrum you're stronger in some areas and weaker in others
And you can always become stronger ultimately that's the goal you don't need to become universally strong all you need to do is improve the person you are if you can reorient your perspective and focus on self-improvement then you can create positive habits that push your mental strength in the right direction
3. Righting Wrongs
Here's another mistake that people routinely make people who see themselves as mentally weak try to fix their weaknesses they want to right the wrongs in their life they want to change the way they act think and grow but this mindset can become toxic and destructive by trying to right the wrongs you're changing your personality you're criticizing your unique characteristics instead of nurturing a happier.
And the healthier version of you so if you want to become mentally stronger there are two things that you need to do first stop trying to change the person you are you're not weak you're not wrong you're not incomplete there's nothing about you that you need to fix or transform second stop idealizing people who are mentally strong mental strength is not an instant recipe for success confidence or satisfaction by becoming mentally strong you're not building a perfect life or a flawless personality you're learning to like yourself mentally strong people are proud of who they are they're mentally strong because they aren't interested in changing their personalities they don't feel ashamed of their quirks and they don't try to fix their weaknesses instead they find confidence in themselves at the core of mental strength is a strong sense of self you should know
And like the person that you've become knowledge creates belief and belief gives you the courage to take risks embrace change and make hard decisions if there's one habit on this list that makes you mentally weaker it's this one you don't need to change you don't need to transform yourself into someone you're not to create unstoppable mental strength you need to give yourself permission to be who you are
4. forcing positivity
Are weak people consistently negative are strong people blindly optimistic positivity and negativity are often associated with degrees of mental strength strong people are considered positive while weak people are considered negative but that's not really how it works stronger people don't always see the silver lining in every situation they can be negative about their situation and they don't always expect great things around every corner because anyone can be blindly optimistic anyone can complain about their situation but only a select few people can view the world realistically approaching new challenges with balance and control that's the difference between mental strength?
And mental weakness stronger people realistically evaluate their situation they're not overwhelmingly positive or consistently negative they don't see the good or the bad in everything and everyone because life is about balance so what bad habit is damaging your mindsets stop complaining about your friends your job or your station in life but don't pretend that you're living in a perfect world life is full of ups and downs pros and cons to create mental strength recognize the good and the bad and that way you can find the balance somewhere in the middle.
5. Suppressing Emotions
Here's another common myth about mental strength mentally strong people are not stoic or emotionally unavailable in fact the strongest people are also emotionally intelligent mentally strong people aren't afraid to cry when they feel sad or to smile when they feel happy they show their emotions because they have control over the way they feel weaker people, on the other hand, suppress ignore and lose control of their emotions they want the world to see them as stoic and strong so they eliminate all signs of weakness but that's not what real strength looks like real strength is vulnerable.
And courageous real strength isn't a shame to show its weakness and flaws so if you feel an emotion don't be afraid to express that feeling out loud because there's nothing wrong with the way you feel if a movie makes you sad you should cry if someone you love makes you happy express your affection showing your emotions no matter what emotions they do not make you weak in fact expressing your emotions is one of the best ways to build mental strength each time you express your feelings you develop a fuller understanding of who you are how you think.
And what you want in this life the more you understand your wants needs and feelings the easier it becomes to manage and fulfill them that means controlling your anger coping with your sadness and making rational decisions no matter how emotional you get these things can be difficult and they require years of practice but the strongest people manage their emotions and they are never ashamed of the way they feel.
6. Hopeless Assumptions
How often do you give up this bad habit affects a surprising number of people when an obstacle is difficult confusing or complicated you assume that obstacle is impossible to overcome you tell yourself it's hopeless trying would be a waste of my time instead of taking your best shot you walk away you assume you're going to fail and you surrender all hope here's the problem with this destructive mindset most obstacles look intimidating or even impossible from the outside you convince yourself that you don't know what you're doing you assume your efforts are going to waste you don't believe in your ability to face the unknown in this situation most people become defensive instead of failing to overcome a challenge you avoid the challenge altogether you protect your ego from hardship and shame you run away.
And you give up hope if you want to become mentally stronger then you need to experience failure you need to take risks and put your ego on the line otherwise you stand no chance of finding success no matter how difficult an obstacle seems try your best to rise to the occasion there's no guarantee you're going to succeed or fail but if you work hard and stay on your toes you always have a chance.
7. Pressure Anxiety
Can you perform under pressure when the going gets tough many people spiral out of control your anxiety gets the best of you you lose faith in yourself and your confidence plummets before you can build mental strength you must learn how to navigate stressful situations the strongest people can relax under pressure and succeed in the tensest moments but this skill set takes years of practice strong people build mental strength by putting themselves in stressful situations they take risks they become familiar with anxiety and pressure?
And they challenge themselves to succeed no matter how high the stakes become ultimately the pressure shouldn't affect your performance it doesn't matter how many people are counting on you in every situation all you can do is your best the only tools you have at your disposal are your own and no amount of pressure is going to change that so the next time you're in a stressful situation remember your limits remind yourself that you are just one person you can do your best you can try your hardest and at the end of the day that's all that anyone expects so relax take a breath.